I am adopted. I never had an interest in meeting my natural parents until much later in life. At first, I thought, I have parents. I don’t need more of them. But as time passed, I noticed things about me that baffled my family. There was a lot of head scratching from my parents as they got to know me. So I thought I was unique. And often enough not a good unique. A baffling, lonely unique that made me notice a small void growing in me.
Meeting my natural mother explained me and it filled that particular void. My first conversation on the phone with her, she asked me if I believed in nature or nurture. I said nurture. She agreed. And we are spending the subsequent years proving ourselves wrong. My physical make up: identical to her. My taste in food, men, clothes, etc: like twins. There’s a man out there who likely explains the unexplained parts, but overall, I feel pretty sated. Not because I met my natural mother and she explained me, but that I met her and realized I didn’t need explaining. After my time with her, and all subsequent conversations, I get that warm, fuzzy feeling seeing me as a reflection of her and it has freed me to see me as a reflection of my adoptive mother, my adoptive father, and inevitably in everyone I meet, everyone who teaches me and everyone who learns from me. My reflection is in everyone I touch.
I think the same evolution of thought happens to us about our belief system and our creation story. The mere curiosity of cosmology feeds a very deep-seated hunger for a very specific validation. Not information, or at least not just information. Validation. We want to know we aren’t unique -baffling, lonely unique. Every creation myth gives us this. We have a common mother. We have a watchmaker of our inner wheels, cogs and coils. Even in the atheistic cosmology, we have a common mutation – in fact, every breathing being shares the same pool of origin. Some need sentience with their evolution so they believe we have a common Thing that made the mutation happen out of a desire for us to exist. But in the end, we all want to know the Beginning to boost our morale about the Present. God made us in His image? I think that belief truly hits the core of why so many of us believe it.
So let’s look at that need -that hunger in us, -and satisfy it with what is here instead of what is hoped and theorized. Let’s look at our reflection in others.
I’m going to start with a quote by astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson. “We are all connected; to each other, biologically. To the Earth, chemically. To the rest of the universe, atomically.” That is very profound. That doesn’t need an origin story. It can have one. It’s human to look for one. But alone, that is amazing. And it’s proven. It’s not a belief. It’s true. The question now becomes how do we, in mind and deed, live that truth?
I actually have no idea. So I’m going to let you tell me. Anyone who answers via twitter or facebook or personal email or here, I’ll update this blog with that answer (and credit you). I’ll also be researching this and updating with what I find, so you all aren’t on your own. What I hope for is a final draft of my first video blog in my “sermon series.” (I gotta work on that title). I now humbly pass this torch to you.